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February 2, 2024

The Question Trap

An investigation of when and why people ask loaded questions that are a proxy for something else.

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Note: The internet version of this episode contains un-beeped curse words. BEEPED VERSION.

Prologue

Prologue

Host Ira Glass talks with producer Tobin Low about the question he got asked after he and his husband moved in together, and what he thinks people were really asking. (4 minutes)

By Ira Glass
Act One

Question: Tell Me What You Think About This

“What do you think about Beyoncé?” and other questions raised by people on first dates. (12 minutes)

By Tobin Low

Song:

“Partition” by Beyoncé (radio only)
Act Two

How Old Are Your Kids?

When a common, seemingly innocuous question goes wildly off the rails. (13 minutes)

Here's the video this story is about, featuring comedian Adam Ray. 

By Chris Benderev; Edited by Bethel Habte
Act Three

How’s Your Mom?

Why are people asking me if my mother recognizes me, when it’s totally beside the point? (14 minutes)

Janelle Taylor originally wrote about her mother in an academic paper for Medical Anthropology Quarterly.

By Janelle Taylor
Act Four

Can I Help You?

Schools ask their students the strangest essay questions sometimes. The experience of tutoring anxious teenagers through how to answer them requires a balladier, singing their lived experience to a crowd as though it were the Middle Ages. (10 minutes)

Milo Cramer’s show School Pictures was recorded at Playwrights Horizons.

By Milo Cramer

Song:

“Don't Ask Me” by Joe Jackson & “Don’t Ask Me” by OK Go (radio only)

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