831: Lists!!!
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Prologue: Prologue
Ira Glass
The People's Almanac came out in the mid 1970s-- it's hard to imagine a more eccentric bestseller. Over 1,400 pages long, it read like an encyclopedia written by an excited and precocious 15-year-old who loved all the obscure details of all the knowledge in all the world.
There are sections on the greatest man-made disasters ever, and also on the greatest prizefighters, a guide to buried treasure in the United States, biographies of famous and infamous scientists, a history of advertising going back to ancient Greece, and also a chapter about a minister who took over a newspaper for a week in the year 1900 and made all editorial decisions-- what was on the front page, what they covered, based on what he believed Jesus would have done, if Jesus had gone into the newspaper game. And at the end of the book was an address and a note from the authors asking for suggestions for future editions, and asking readers to tell them what parts of the book they liked and disliked.
David Wallechinsky
So we eventually received thousands of letters, each of which I read.
Ira Glass
David Wallechinsky was one of the authors of The People's Almanac.
David Wallechinsky
And because of that, I was able to determine that the most popular chapter in The People's Almanac was lists.
Ira Glass
Lists! Of all the knowledge in the world, people most loved 25 pages, out of the 1,400-page book, that had some lists. Some of those lists were boring stuff, like the world's 15 biggest cities and 10 tallest buildings and 10 longest rivers. But there were weirder lists-- 20 historical figures who were born as illegitimate children, 15 people who had an absurd number of spouses.
And this one that was maybe a little more edgy in 1975 when this was published-- 20 celebrities who've been psychoanalyzed. From the letters they got, Wallechinsky says that they learned that one list that readers really loved was--
David Wallechinsky
Famous people who never existed, but live today, like Sherlock Holmes, Superman, Wonder Woman, Scrooge McDuck.
Ira Glass
Scrooge McDuck, not technically a person, but you get the idea.
David Wallechinsky
And the most popular list was "Nine Breeds of Dog that Bite the Most." So based on that, we decided to do the first Book of Lists.
Ira Glass
The first Book of Lists was an even bigger, even more ridiculously huge bestseller, a pop culture phenomenon. It sold over three million copies, had four sequels, a short-lived TV spin off, and a board game. I was a teenager in the 1970s. I had no interest in this kind of thing whatsoever, but I remember it being one of those ubiquitous books that you could not help but know about.
And looking back on it now, reading The Book of Lists today, I think they accidentally figured out how to give the pleasure of scrolling the internet way before the internet existed. Basically, it was a way to leaf through impossibly random stuff until something catchy grabbed your eye.
David Wallechinsky
We had different kinds of lists. And people were responding to all of them. We had the celebrity lists, where we would ask Ronald Reagan, what are the events in history you wish you could have witnessed? Then there were the straight lists that were statistical-- what were the worst airlines in the world based on deaths per miles flown? And then my favorite kind were what we call the annotated lists, where you'd actually have to do some research and then put a paragraph describing the entry.
Ira Glass
The most popular list they ever did was like that. And before I tell you what this list was, I want you to please listen for a second to some of the lists that it had to beat out to be the most popular list.
OK, here we go. [CLEARS THROAT] 15 famous events that happened in the bathtub. 16 names of things that you never knew had names. 18 famous brains and what they weighed. 14 men who became units of measurement and the units named after them. Benjamin Franklin's 8 reasons to marry an older woman. A lot of competition there. So what was in that most popular list?
David Wallechinsky
Six sexual positions in order of popularity, and then the advantages and disadvantages of each one. Decades later, people still tell me, thank you so much for that list. I learned so much. [LAUGHS]
Ira Glass
And maybe this is obvious on its face, but just lay out why that would be such a big deal in the '70s.
David Wallechinsky
I think it was a big deal because nobody talked about it. It wasn't in print. And I think a lot of people only thought there was one sexual position.
Ira Glass
No.
David Wallechinsky
Yeah. Oh, yeah. I mean, there were people like that. And a lot of the people who would tell me about how it affected them, they read it at a time when they were teenagers.
Ira Glass
It's interesting, I just opened it up to that page in the book. And these are so basic. It literally is just like, which person is on top--
David Wallechinsky
Yeah.
Ira Glass
--and whether they're sort of lying, sitting, or standing. And each position gets five sentences maybe-- a sentence of advantage, a sentence of disadvantage. It's very terse. It's two pages total.
David Wallechinsky
Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's not the Kama Sutra.
Ira Glass
David Wallechinsky has thought way more about lists than most of us. And he told me this one story that illustrates how putting something on a list has such power. He said that for most of his adult life, he was kind of obsessed about the terrible things that repressive governments around the world do to their people. And he wanted to write about it for magazines and convince people how important this was. And he really couldn't figure out how to do that compellingly.
David Wallechinsky
And so in 2003, I got this idea. I'll do it as a list-- the 10 worst living dictators. And I was obsessive in creating the order of the list of worst dictators. I had criteria, different criteria. And then I gave extra credit for dictators who tortured or murdered their political opponents.
Ira Glass
He published this list, with write-ups on each dictator, in Parade Magazine, which was a big deal at the time. It reached 32 million people.
David Wallechinsky
And it was so popular that we did it annually. And it became a cover story. So millions of people read about this topic they would not otherwise have read about. The list format made accessible to people a subject they didn't know they might be interested in.
Ira Glass
It made the subject digestible and human. Here were 10 awful human beings you could have feelings about. That's the power of a list. But of course, most of the lists in our lives are different from this. Most are the lists that we write for ourselves. And it's interesting. People put all kinds of things on those lists.
Aviva DeKornfeld
Oh, my god. I feel nervous.
Ira Glass
Why do you feel nervous?
Aviva DeKornfeld
Because I was just looking through my list, and I just feel like a freak.
Ira Glass
This is Aviva DeKornfeld, a producer at our show here. And I learned about the very personal and idiosyncratic lists that she keeps in a staff meeting where I talked about Wallechinsky and different kinds of lists. And at that meeting, Aviva started talking about her lists.
Aviva DeKornfeld
And so I was offering this, kind of assuming I would start saying my lists and then everyone else would be like, yeah, yeah, me too. And then they would share their lists, and it would be kind of like this bonding moment.
Ira Glass
That's what you thought was going to happen?
Aviva DeKornfeld
Yeah. And that's not what happened at all. What happened is that I named a couple of my more recent lists. And then everyone started laughing and was like, what the hell? In fact, Laura, our coworker, messaged in the chat, "Aviva's brain," with like seven exclamation points. And it felt a little-- I mean, it was all in good spirits, but it felt a little embarrassing.
Ira Glass
Aviva does keep some lists that lots of people keep-- practical stuff like books she wants to read or gift ideas for people she loves. But then on the Notes app of her phone, there's a whole bunch of lists that have no practical purpose at all, but are really just her organizing the stuff that is rattling around in her head.
Aviva DeKornfeld
So a list that is just organizing my brain is-- let me look-- things that are off-brand for me, or common things I've never done, or times strangers have involved me in their business for unclear reasons, like on the street or on the subway. That happens to me all the time.
Ira Glass
OK, so then let's dive into those lists. Things that are off-brand for me--
Aviva DeKornfeld
Mm-hmm.
Ira Glass
--read me that list.
Aviva DeKornfeld
OK. I'm bad at jumping. I'm inconsistent with my birth control.
Ira Glass
You mean you're not taking your pill every day that you should?
Aviva DeKornfeld
No.
Ira Glass
Why is that off-brand?
Aviva DeKornfeld
Because I'm organized. The other thing that's embarrassing about reading these lists is that they're so private. But whatever, I don't care. I can't rollerblade. I hate PETA, even though I was vegan for a year and vegetarian for a bunch of years. I just really don't like them.
I don't love bowling. That's a new addition. The last one I really don't want to share, but will. But it probably shouldn't be on the radio because it makes me seem really psychotic, which is that I've never kissed anyone famous. And I just assumed I would have by now.
Ira Glass
Because you're how old?
Aviva DeKornfeld
30.
Ira Glass
And so you've kissed a bunch of people.
Aviva DeKornfeld
Yeah, a ton. And the most famous person I've ever kissed is the captain of the Belgian field hockey team, which is not famous.
Ira Glass
No, that is not famous.
Aviva DeKornfeld
No. Yeah, his name was Jay.
Ira Glass
This list, or the list "Common things I've never done"-- which, by the way, only has two items on it, karaoke and going to Costco-- or the list, "Where I feel the emotions that I feel on my body," or the list, "Times people have referred to me as neurodivergent, even though I don't think I am"-- all these lists are different ways that Aviva is naming parts of herself for herself.
Aviva DeKornfeld
Yeah. Yeah, I'm just trying to make sense of who I am and what is going on in my brain.
Ira Glass
In list form.
Aviva DeKornfeld
Yeah, because it's so organized and clear and clean. And the business of making sense of yourself I've found to be extremely messy.
Ira Glass
With that in mind, Aviva still keeps old defunct lists because they're like a record of who she was-- lists from when she was a teenager, like "Harmless things my dad hates," or "Things I should have known," or her very first list, "Scenes from my grandmother's nursing home"-- made on weekly visits when she was 14, trying to make sense of that world.
Normally, she doesn't show these lists to anybody. She'd just notice something about herself, and then she'll notice a second example of the same thing, and she starts to collect them so she can stare at the list, try to understand it.
Ira Glass
And the fact that it's collected on a list, what feeling does that give you, once it's on the list?
Aviva DeKornfeld
Oh, my god, it's like relief. It's so nice. Because it's just bouncing around in my brain. And so once it's on a list, I don't feel like I have to remember it.
Ira Glass
But it isn't just you don't have to think about it. It's like you don't have to worry about it. Before you put it on the list, it seems like there's a kind of fretting of like, what does this mean about me that this is a thing? And then once you put it on the list, you're like, I know what it means. It means it's on this list.
Aviva DeKornfeld
Yeah, totally. That's true. I exist, and this is a thing about me.
Ira Glass
Today, on our program, lists, and how they tame the chaos of the world. I have to say, I feel very aware in putting together everything that I have said to you so far today. The way I did it is the way I write every radio story I've ever done since, I don't know, forever.
The first thing I do is I make a list of all the possible quotes that I might use. So in this case, it was three single-spaced typed pages of quotes from Aviva and from David Wallechinsky, with asterisks by the quotes I like the most. And then what I do is I stare at the list until it just pops out for me. This quote should come first, and this one second, and this one should end the thing. I have no idea how to write any radio story without a list to take control of all the confusion and all the possible choices that I could make and make it make sense.
So today, lists, how they run the world and everything in it. From WBEZ Chicago, it's This American Life. I'm Ira Glass. And hold on, I have a list right here. Number 1, stay with us. Number 2, stay with us. Number 3, stay with us.
Act One: List for Life
Ira Glass
It's This American Life, Act 1, "List for Life." So let's start our show today with a list designed as a kind of magical tool for living your life and maximizing your potential and being your very best self. Or anyway, that's what this list was supposed to do. The story comes to us from John Fecile.
John Fecile
You ready to talk about the list?
Pat Fecile
Sure.
John Fecile
You want to see it? It's right-- this is it right here.
Pat Fecile
What do you want to ask me about it?
John Fecile
I'm on a Zoom call with my brother Pat, talking about a list that was written by our other brother, Mike. And I want to ask him what he thinks I should do with it. It's one of the last pieces of Mike's writing that we have.
John Fecile
What do you think should be done with this list?
Pat Fecile
I don't care.
John Fecile
If you burned it, I wouldn't feel sad. I wouldn't be angry. I'd say, why'd you burn it without me?
My brother Mike died in 2015. That's almost 10 years ago now. Jeez. And trigger warning and all that, he died because of a suicidal act. It's unclear why he did what he did. There were stories his roommates told about paranoia, hallucinations, Mike becoming obsessed with aliens.
It was all so sudden and shocking that my family and I started grasping around for anything, trying to make it all make sense, which brings me to the list. Mike wrote the list the summer he was about to be a sophomore in high school-- 16 principles to live his life by, titled, "Goals for Success," double underlined on a rectangular piece of poster board.
They were corny bro-isms, if I'm being honest. "Make a commitment. Be unselfish. Create unity. Come together as never before." As you can see, Mike was a real overachiever, Type A type. "Improve every day as a player, person, and student. Be tough. Be self-disciplined-- do it right, don't accept less."
He was captain of the high school football team, straight-A student. "Give great effort. Be enthusiastic. Eliminate mistakes. Don't beat yourself." He hung the list on his closet door, facing his bed, so that when he woke up in the morning, the first thing he saw was-- "Expect to win. Be consistent. Develop leadership. Be responsible."
I first noticed the list when I went into Mike's bedroom to steal a pair of his boxers. I was always forgetting to do my laundry. Mike always did his. And my feelings about the list were immediately complicated. I felt like it was somehow judging me. I was the oldest of my siblings. But to me, Mike always felt older.
He was Mr. Rotary Club, Mr. Scheduled Out His Daily Routine. I was Mr. Been Arrested Twice, Mr. Smoking Weed out of an Aluminum Can and Probably Doing Irreparable Damage to my Lungs in the Woods. And Mike knew he was better than me. He even wrote a poem in English class about how disappointed he was in me. I'm not kidding. It was titled "Second Chances."
Back then, I resented the list. I probably made fun of him about it because that was the nature of our relationship, even though we were close. But after he died, I actually saw these principles as something I should live up to. Because at that point, I was spiraling. Mike was 24 when he died. I was 26. I couldn't get myself together-- drinking, depression, a simmering, futile anger at the universe.
The original had been framed. And I asked my parents if I could have it, and hung it up in my apartment by the front door. I thought maybe its commandments might rub off on me. And there it stayed for a bit. I'd glance at it every once in a while and feel again like I was falling short.
So after a couple of years, I took it down. I shoved it in the back of my closet. It just bothered me, the toxic positivity, therapist-waiting-room-posterness of it all. But I also couldn't bear to get rid of it, which is why I called up Pat to finally figure out what to do with it.
Pat Fecile
If anything, I would think the list would be cursed. So you can keep it if it makes you feel better. I don't want anything to do with the list.
John Fecile
Pat was the closest person to Mike in the world. He's two years younger than Mike, who was a year and a half younger than me. Pat and I can't even agree on the most basic things about the list.
John Fecile
And he had neat handwriting. That was one thing that struck me, looking at the list, is how neat his handwriting is.
Pat Fecile
It doesn't look neat, not to me.
John Fecile
Yeah way!
Pat Fecile
Are those straight lines? Are we looking at the same photo?
John Fecile
Yeah, yeah.
Pat Fecile
No, that's not neat.
John Fecile
That's neat.
Pat Fecile
Look at the K. He doesn't even dot the i's.
John Fecile
But he's consistently not dotting his i's. That says something.
Pat Fecile
That he never learned how to write the letter i?
John Fecile
Pat saw something in the list that I also felt, but I couldn't necessarily name.
John Fecile
What role do you think the list played in his death?
Pat Fecile
The list didn't play a role, but it's a reflection of his psychology, which played every role in his death and shows you the type of responsibility he felt. It shows you the type of pressure he put on himself. There's nothing about self-care in it. And there's nothing about being true to yourself either. It shows you a lot of what was going on with him and this mindset that he got trapped in and that made him very sick.
John Fecile
When Mike was a sophomore at Penn State, he started experiencing delusions and he was barely sleeping. But if he felt like he was struggling, he didn't tell anyone. He kept going to class. His roommates noticed. And they were talking about how to get him help. And I think, this is just my opinion, a guess, that Mike didn't want to be found out.
John Fecile
In the past, I've connected the list to Mike's mindset, as in, he was not somebody who's going to be vulnerable if he was suffering.
Pat Fecile
No, he was not.
John Fecile
Are there any bullet points that stand out to you in particular?
Pat Fecile
There's a bunch. "Eliminate mistakes," that's one of the ones that's just so stupid. Eliminate mistakes? What do you mean?
John Fecile
You can't.
Pat Fecile
How?
John Fecile
That's why they're mistakes.
Pat Fecile
Yeah. "Create unity. Come together as never before." I mean, he's not just trying to get people to come together, "as never before."
John Fecile
[LAUGHS] I like that one. That reminds me of, he was a good unifier. He had friends across all the arbitrary social cliques.
After he passed, did you think about the list at all?
Pat Fecile
I didn't give it a lot of thought until I went to the football banquet and heard Mr. Ricci speak. And then I got pretty angry. And then I was pretty annoyed at the list.
Mike Ricci
One of the captains of our 2008 team and a 2009 Garnet Valley graduate, Mike Fecile, embodied the qualities of the coachable player.
John Fecile
That's Mike's high school football coach, in case you can't just tell from his voice, renaming an award after my brother at a banquet in 2016.
Mike Ricci
Mike created and shared a list of goals for success, 16 standards that he vowed to uphold and to use as a compass to guide his path. They were, "Make a commitment. Be unselfish."
John Fecile
This is really the moment the list passed into lore, when it became the way my brother was remembered. The coach paid to have Goals for Success professionally matted and framed. That's the copy that I have.
He also hung a replica of the list in our high school's weight room, next to a photo of Mike in football gear, with his tough game face on to inspire future generations, which I appreciated. He was putting so much into memorializing Mike. But later, I started worrying about the kids who saw it and whether they might judge themselves by it the same way that I had.
Mike Ricci
We want our players to do what you're supposed to do and believe if it is to be, it's up to me. We want them to be model citizens, model athletes, and model sons. In essence, we want them to be like Mike Fecile.
John Fecile
The coach goes on to describe what happened to Mike. He says that he fell from the fourth floor balcony of his dorm and that it was an accident, which he got from my parents. That was how they framed it. But Mike didn't fall. He jumped.
Pat Fecile
The list still makes me feel sad. But that was when the list started making me feel angry. To me, it's like this obsession with image that is such a toxic quality of the community that we're from and the family that we're from.
John Fecile
We may have looked good from the outside, but alcoholism and mental illness run in our family and were a big part of my childhood. You don't need to know the specifics. Just know that it was chaos. And not even Mr. Golden Child was spared from it.
But where I struggled and flailed and totally embodied all that chaos, Mike tried to contain it, to impose order on it, to fix it by being perfect. And that's what the list is, a manifestation of his drive to be perfect. That's how Pat sees it, anyway.
Pat Fecile
It's painful for me, the list, because it's about what trauma did to Mike. And now these adults are waving it around like it was some sort of thing to be proud of with him. And there's a lot of things that I'm very proud of that he did. I'd rather those things be remembered than this insane pressure that he put on himself.
John Fecile
What do you wish he was remembered for? What are the things you want him remembered for?
Pat Fecile
I think just who he was, really. There's really nothing to be ashamed of. But he wasn't this model person in school. We sold weed together. We provided pretty much the entire football team with weed. We had a little business thing going on. It was funny. It wasn't bad. It was funny. It's also just the truth. Whether it's funny or not funny, I just want the truth remembered.
I don't want to have to deal with these fake stories about Mike. When I was at the banquet, they gave a check to the kid that won his award. And I'm with dad. And the kid comes up. And dad says to him, he goes, make sure you spend this on other people. That's what Mike would have done. And I look at the kid--
John Fecile
That's not what he would have done.
Pat Fecile
That's what I said. And I looked at dad and I go, who are you talking about? You talking about Mike? And then I look at the kid and I'm just like, dude, my brother would have spent this on the dumbest shit, all right?
John Fecile
[LAUGHS]
Pat Fecile
You do whatever you want with that money, kid. Go have fun.
John Fecile
Really? You said that?
Pat Fecile
Yeah. He would have.
John Fecile
He would have blown that money. He was greedy--
Pat Fecile
He was terrible with money.
John Fecile
--and also bad with money, yeah.
Pat Fecile
He would buy a $400 pair of sunglasses and then accidentally leave them on top of a car and lose them.
John Fecile
Didn't he put a subwoofer in his car too, at one point?
Pat Fecile
The subwoofer was awesome, OK? The subwoofer was such a deal and perfectly for the hatchback. And Dad put his foot down--
John Fecile
The list doesn't just leave out Mike's flaws. It also misses, really, the best stuff about him. He was warm, generous, extremely goofy.
Pat Fecile
He was curious. And that was a really good quality that he had. He found people really interesting. So he liked to listen.
John Fecile
Be curious would be a good one to be on here.
Pat Fecile
Yeah. Kids from my grade, they come up to me and they tell me stories about Mike, when they started on the football team and they felt they didn't belong there. Because the older kids were dicks. And they said my brother would come around and he would comfort them and he would encourage them.
And then I remember hearing from Ally Opromolla. And she said when they were dating, Mike had a great relationship with her grandmother. And he would watch TV with her grandmother. I think it was like game shows or something. Maybe it was Wheel of Fortune.
And he would just watch TV with her. And they would shoot the shit. Yeah, those are the stories that I'm proud of. Because they are a reflection of who he was. He was a good guy that people enjoyed. And that's the kind of stuff I want to remember.
John Fecile
Last year, Pat wrote to the football coach at our high school and asked him to use the list to spread awareness about suicide. He got him to add a line to the bottom of it. It says, "There is great strength in vulnerability, as it takes courage to push through the fear and share one's true self with others."
Recently, after my wife and I moved into our new apartment, I made a decision to hang up the list again. It's in my home office. Now I'm the one looking at it every day. And I don't resent it anymore.
Maybe it still makes me feel a little weird, OK? But I see it for what it is. I don't feel judged by it. And some of the lists, I'm genuinely down with. Create unity is a beautiful idea. It reminds me of the best of Mike. But mostly, I just like looking at my brother's handwriting.
Ira Glass
John Fecile. He's a Senior Producer at the show Snap Judgment. His story was produced by Sean Cole.
Coming up, over a hundred dogs and one giant bear, and its list of enemies. That's in a minute, from Chicago Public Radio, when our program continues.
Throw Me a Bone Here
Ira Glass
It's This American Life. I'm Ira Glass. Today's program-- Lists! How they tame the chaos of the world.
Bobby Sherwood
This list is all the dogs in my dog's life, kind of segmented by different criteria.
Ira Glass
This is Bobby Sherwood, who's friends with one of our producers here, Chris Benderev. And he's showing Chris a lists that he keeps on his phone of neighborhood dogs.
Bobby Sherwood
We've got Lunchbox, who's a cream Scottie with a turquoise vest. We've got Virgil, who is some kind of doodle dog. But I said, "little fried chicken dog." And the owner looks like my friend Otto.
Chris Benderev
Wait, what is little fried chicken dog?
Bobby Sherwood
Some doodles have tight, curly brown hair fur. And it looks exactly like fried chicken. So this dog literally looks like a walking piece of fried chicken.
Ira Glass
Bobby keeps this list because there are so many dogs where he lives. There are 130 dogs on this list. And his memory isn't always the greatest. And he's convinced that people can tell if you don't know their dog's name and you're faking it by saying things like--
Bobby Sherwood
How's he or she doing today? Or how's your puppy? You got to find--
Ira Glass
And he is not into the potential awkwardness of that. OK, just for context, he does have a list of people like this too, to remember the spouses of friends and coworkers that he's met just once, and people's kids. But the dog list, he also finds it helpful to rank all the dogs. So his dog Chewy's favorites are at the top. And his least favorites are at the bottom.
Bobby Sherwood
There are some dogs that bully Chewy, so we throw them at the bottom of the list. And then we know, hey, this one is [BLEEP] who beats up Chewy. You might want to bleep that name.
Ira Glass
To see how this works in practice, Chris followed Bobby to the dog park. And it doesn't take long before they get into a list-needing situation.
Bobby Sherwood
I definitely think I recognize that dog, the tall doodle over there.
Chris Benderev
Walk me through what you're doing.
Bobby Sherwood
So I see a big boy I'm sure Chewy's run into at this dog park before. Let me see. Scrolling.
Ira Glass
He scrolls down the list on his phone until he gets to the dog park section, searching for a dog with a description--
Bobby Sherwood
Shaggy brown doodle? Yeah. I don't know.
Ira Glass
He finds nothing. He'll have to add that one to the list. Bobby has no idea how other dog owners do it, keep track of all the dogs, though I think it's entirely possible that other people are no better with the names than he is. And they just don't care.
Bobby Sherwood
Yeah, he's a cutie.
Ira Glass
When he and Chris get back to the house, they run into a neighbor's dog who somehow wasn't on the list yet.
Bobby Sherwood
I'm going to add it to the list, though. I've actually bumped into that dog many times. And he always says he's friendly. And it's like, yeah, I know. We've met like 10 times.
Chris Benderev
Do you think he doesn't remember you?
Bobby Sherwood
I don't know. I don't know. That guy needs a list though, you know?
Act Two: Target List
Ira Glass
Act 2, "Target List." There's some lists you definitely do not want to be on. This past Thanksgiving, M had people come stay with them at a house they affectionately call the dacha because it's out of the city and they're Russian. That's just the word Russians use.
M. Gessen
We totally call it the dacha.
Ira Glass
M is M. Gessen. They write about Russia for The New Yorker and in books. And the day after Thanksgiving, two of their guests left for some other celebration. And a bunch of the remaining guests, four or five people, went on a hike, a pretty vertical one, actually, up a nearby mountain. So they get to a spot way up high.
M. Gessen
Yeah, it's an overlook point. It's pretty tiny. We're all standing pretty close together, looking out at the Catskills and the little town where we live. And then two of us pulled out our phones.
Ira Glass
As one does. How much nature can you take?
M. Gessen
And both of us saw a news item that one of the friends who had left that morning had been declared a foreign agent.
Ira Glass
Foreign agent, in other words, the Russian government just put him on an official list of people that it is not very fond of. Foreign agent is not a good thing.
M. Gessen
And this is something that the Russian government does almost every Friday.
Ira Glass
They put out a list of foreign agents?
M. Gessen
Right. It's like this weird, weird spectator sport to see who is now a foreign agent.
Ira Glass
It's weird. It's like a sinister version of when Oscar nominations come out or something, you know?
M. Gessen
Actually, that's not a bad simile. Because when Oscar nominations come out, then you have to wonder, what's going to be the outcome for any one of these?
Ira Glass
Yeah.
M. Gessen
And with foreign agents, it's a little bit like that. Part of being on the list of foreign agents is that you're put on notice. You're on our radar. We may launch a criminal case against you, which has much harsher consequences.
Ira Glass
Oh, you can graduate from this list to worse lists?
M. Gessen
Yes, they end up on other lists, like the wanted list. Or somebody just stays a foreign agent indefinitely. But it's extremely unpleasant. It sort of reconfigures your world.
Ira Glass
So they're out on this mountain. M and one of the other Russians reads this on their phones, that their friend who they just had Thanksgiving dinner with the night before is now a foreign agent.
M. Gessen
So we both say his last name, Venyavkin. And this is something that's actually happened before between the two of us, where we just take out our phones on a Friday, see a name, and say the name. Because you don't have to say, Venyavkin has been named a foreign agent, because we know it's Friday.
Ira Glass
M says Russia is now in an age of lists. It started when Vladimir Putin created the list of foreign agents when he took the presidency for a second time in 2012. And he started clamping down on dissent. At first, it was just organizations on the foreign agents list-- human rights groups, media outfits.
And then, three and a half years ago, they started adding the names of people to the list. Russia actually modeled its foreign agent law on an American foreign agent law. It dates to the 1930s. One key difference between the two laws, among many, in America, to be a foreign agent, you actually have to be working for or acting on behalf of a foreign government organization.
And you put yourself on the list. You register as a foreign agent. In Russia, the government just puts you on a list, calls you a foreign agent, and voila, you are one. M says this list and the way the Putin government has been using it are typical of the way he's operating these days.
M. Gessen
It's very bureaucratic. And so all these lists have weird nomenclatures. It's foreign agents list or undesirable organizations or unfriendly countries. So the United States, for example, is an unfriendly country to Russia.
Ira Glass
Right.
M. Gessen
What they mean is mortal enemy.
Ira Glass
It's so weird that they feel compelled to divide off the world into the friendly countries and unfriendly countries, that they actually have to write it down on a list.
M. Gessen
That's a great point. It's a combination of a country that has the ideology of a fortress under siege and a country that has a deeply, deeply bureaucratic self-understanding. So everything has to be somehow classified and put down on paper or in an Excel table. This resurgent totalitarianism in Russia, it's really focused on the bureaucracy. The bureaucracy is its heart, its core. And that's why lists are so important.
Ira Glass
Are you on this list?
M. Gessen
I'm not. I'm on a different list, a worse list.
Ira Glass
What list is that?
M. Gessen
I'm on the wanted list, because there's a criminal case against me.
Ira Glass
M says that being put on one of these lists throws you out of the normal world and into this weird, undefined limbo or purgatory, where things are different and more worrisome. Because it's unclear what's going to happen next. What is clear is that it's a permanent status change.
Our program today is about lists. And as part of that, we wanted to hear from people who are on a target list, about what it's like to live that disquieting life. And M agreed to reach out to some to talk about it and talk especially about what it's like to be on the foreign agent list.
The foreign agent list is interesting, because being on that list really can mean such a wide range of things. Maybe it'll be nothing. Or maybe things will get a lot worse. Here's what M put together.
M. Gessen
I've been watching the foreign agent list grow for a few years. It's now about 400 people, most of them living outside of Russia. And I probably know half of them. That's one reason I've been sort of obsessed with the list. It's a day that changes your life.
Ilya
I was cutting the turkey. And I believe that I was in the midst of cutting my fourth turkey in a row.
M. Gessen
This is Ilya, my friend who was put on the list the Friday after Thanksgiving.
M. Gessen
Fourth turkey that weekend or fourth turkey that day?
Ilya
Probably that weekend. And then I saw my wife coming to me. And I realized that she was pale. And I realized that something happened. And then she told me that I was declared a foreign agent.
M. Gessen
Here's Galina Arapova's version of the experience of finding out she was on the list. She's a media lawyer who was representing journalists who had been put on the list. Then she was branded a foreign agent herself. She was the first lawyer on the list. She found out when a reporter called to ask her about the implications.
Galina Arapova
Believe it or not, for the first few seconds, I didn't realize that he is actually saying to me that my name appeared on the list. I thought that he was asking me to provide a comment like what would happen, what if you appear on the list, how that would affect your life. And then I just realized that it's actually not a hypothetical, that he's actually informing me that my name is on the list.
M. Gessen
Being put on the foreign agent list has consequences regardless of where the person lives. And once the Russian government names you a foreign agent, you face a bunch of choices. Because there are all sorts of special rules that apply to foreign agents. And you have to decide whether you're going to comply.
One rule, every time you communicate anything publicly or semi-publicly in the media or in social media or in a dating app even, you have to warn people that they're dealing with a foreign agent. There's a special disclaimer you have to use in extra large type.
Galina Arapova
It's huge. It has to be in font, in letters twice bigger than the main text.
M. Gessen
Do you remember the exact words? You can say them in Russian if you want.
Galina Arapova
Yes. [SPEAKING RUSSIAN]
M. Gessen
The disclaimer says, this message or information was created and/or disseminated by a foreign agent, non-governmental organization.
Galina Arapova
Which is quite a big paragraph, considering the size. In social media, it would be like in Caps Lock.
M. Gessen
It's an all caps?
Galina Arapova
Yeah.
M. Gessen
And it gets more Byzantine. A person who has been put on the list must create a corporation. And the corporation, in the eyes of the state, is you. And you are the corporation.
This corporation has to file quarterly financial reports detailing the income you make and the money you spend, submit to an annual audit, and also post regular reports of your activities, whatever that means, on the internet, or submit them to the media for publication. The paperwork has to be perfect every time, but the rules are vague.
Galina Arapova
So you can make mistakes easily. And then if you made a mistake, here, government comes with a fine. First fine, second fine, and then criminal case. So it's all made as a big trap. And all these games around it, it's like Tom and Jerry game. They are just running after us and we're trying to run away, trying to still do the job.
M. Gessen
Galina follows the rules. Most of her clients do, even if they're living outside of Russia. Because everyone has someone or something left behind-- family members that the authorities can decide to harass, property the authorities can seize.
My friend Karen decided not to follow the rules. He'd left Russia right after the full-scale invasion of Ukraine. And a couple of months later, his name popped up on the list. Like everyone, he still had a million things tying him to Russia.
Karen
So I knew that I'm not going to play by those rules. And I decided to just get rid of everything I had back there, including my apartment.
M. Gessen
So you were thinking that now that you were on this list of foreign agents, your property in Russia was in danger and you should basically take money out of the country?
Karen
Yes.
M. Gessen
What did that feel like?
Karen
It felt like nothing. I told myself, we don't go there. I mean, in that infinite depth of feelings about your country and everybody who you left there and stuff, it can drive you crazy. So I just didn't feel anything.
M. Gessen
A little over a year later, Karen found out that he was on another list, the list of extremists and terrorists. This was, you could say, an upgrade. It meant that the Russian state froze whatever assets he still had in Russia. So he'd been smart to sell his apartment.
But being on this list also meant they'd opened a criminal case against him. Just to make this clear, he hadn't been informed that there was a case against him. Karen had to hire a lawyer to figure out what he was charged with and which prosecutor was charging him. Karen and I have talked about this weird process of having to find your own case, because there's also a criminal case against me in Russia.
I found out about it from articles in Russian government media. And then my name appeared on the wanted list. In the hierarchy of lists, the wanted list is probably the worst-- that we know about anyway. I've now been arrested in absentia, and in the next few months, a Moscow court is going to sentence me to 7 or 8 or 9 years in prison.
It took my lawyer two months to find the case against me for, quote, "spreading false information about the Russian military." Karen said I was lucky. It took his lawyer six months to find his case. Karen's crime? Years ago, Karen donated money to Alexei Navalny's anti-corruption foundation. Navalny is the Russian politician who died in an Arctic prison earlier this year.
M. Gessen
And when did you give money to the Navalny organization? Do you remember?
Karen
Well, for years. And that, of course, it was long before they labeled Navalny Foundation as illegal or extremist or anything else. I was one of thousands of people, I believe, who supported Navalny and his foundation.
M. Gessen
Do you have any idea how much money you gave them?
Karen
Not that much. I believe a few hundred dollars total.
M. Gessen
By the way, Alexei Navalny was also on the list of extremists and terrorists. He still is on that list, because the authorities say they haven't received proper documentation of his death.
Karen
Any contact with Russian state recently resembles more and more contact with hooligans back in elementary or middle school.
M. Gessen
Bullies?
Karen
Yeah, like with bullies. This is a feeling that they are very strong, very hostile, and very-- [SPEAKING RUSSIAN]
M. Gessen
Small minded?
Karen
Yeah, strong, hostile, and small-minded, sort of feeling that they are like big, angry animal who is trying to attack you when they're scared of you, and who can kill you because they're scared of you.
M. Gessen
Let's just call this animal what it is. You're describing a bear, a Russian bear.
Karen
Yeah, that's such a cliche. Come on.
M. Gessen
With the Russian bear on your heels, you have to watch your step. If you're going to travel, you have to ask, is it safe? Can I go there? Ilya Krasilschik, a different Ilya, now divides all the countries in the world into three categories.
Ilya Krasilschik
Can't go, maybe can't go, can go with consequences.
M. Gessen
Can go with consequences really means don't go. You don't want the consequences. Ilya started a media outlet called HelpDesk, which reports on the war in Ukraine and helps Ukrainians flee the fighting. In the eyes of the Russian state, he has been a criminal for more than two years for posting about war crimes in Bucha.
I haven't been a criminal for as long as Ilya has, but I've also learned there's a whole convoluted science to it. Some countries will extradite people to Russia, some countries might. And then there's Interpol, the International police, which Russia tries to use to have people detained and sometimes extradited. The planning that goes into traveling to other countries can get very granular.
Ilya Krasilschik
Sometimes it's not about where you go, but about which company you're flying. And this is really difficult. Because, for example, Turkish Airlines, if something will happen, they can land in Russia. Because they have this airport as the Plan B airport. But you need to call every airline and ask them for every route. And I think somebody should do this.
M. Gessen
You could easily spend all your time, your entire life perfecting the act, being Jerry who keeps evading Tom.
Ilya Krasilschik
So it's absurd. And absurd should be fun. I don't know, like Kafka, yeah? Kafka is funny in some way, but it's also awful.
M. Gessen
It used to be, when a friend was named a foreign agent, I would send them a note saying, proud to know you, like it was some sort of recognition. At some point, that stopped feeling right. I didn't feel proud, not when my friends were put on a list and not when I landed on Russia's wanted list.
When that happened, my friend Ilya, the one who was carving the turkeys at Thanksgiving, texted me, "I'm not sure what the protocol is. Do I congratulate you or express condolences?" I felt sad.
M. Gessen
Help me understand the sadness. Because when I found out that there was a criminal case against me, and then later when I found out that I was arrested in absentia, in a sense, intellectually, it's almost exciting. And as people often say, it's a sort of recognition.
Ilya
Mm-hmm.
M. Gessen
And I felt profoundly sad. I felt like I was carrying around another burden that hadn't been there before. What is it?
Ilya
Oh, that's a good one. If I'm telling you something rude, if I'm telling you I hate you, it's OK to be sad about that. Because it's sad that someone hates me. And when I'm saying that, well, I'm honored by that or they're stupid, I feel that this reaction's just shielding you from the sadness and tragedy of that.
M. Gessen
The elephant in the room of my sadness is that being considered a criminal by the Russian state means I'll never be able to go home again, not even if there is a change of regime. I doubt that the first, second, or even third thing they're going to do after Putin is purge all the lists. So like the vast majority of Russians who are on these lists, I'm in exile for life.
For many of us who live outside of Russia, this business of being on lists is really akin to having a troublesome chronic illness. You keep tabs on it. You modify your behavior as necessary. You hope it doesn't kill you. But other than that, you live a relatively normal, American, or German or Dutch life.
For those who are still in Russia, though, the condition can be much more serious. Zoya is one such person. Zoya is not her real name. She's an LGBT activist. And in November of last year, the Russian Supreme Court declared the, quote, "international LGBT movement was an extremist organization."
Zoya had been put on lists even before that, though, internal lists circulated within government agencies. These lists aren't meant to be public, but there is an illicit service that will search different internal lists and databases and send you what they find-- like a Freedom of Information Act request, but fast, unredacted, and for sale.
Zoya
You can just pay a very small amount, like $30, and download everything what they have on you, including these informal lists that police create for their work. You will be able to see how this regime see you, what do they have on you. Do they follow your flights? It's enough information.
M. Gessen
And what you get is an Excel document or PDF?
Zoya
PDF.
M. Gessen
PDF?
Zoya
PDF Document.
M. Gessen
On the PDF, the lists you're on are marked in red. So her PDF said extremism and terrorism in red. But again, this wasn't the public list of extremists and terrorists.
Zoya
Yeah, it's two different lists. If it's possible, I will say it to you in Russian.
[SPEAKING RUSSIAN]
If you can translate it.
M. Gessen
So the reason you wanted to say it in Russian is not because you can't translate it, but because the word doesn't exist.
Zoya
Yeah.
M. Gessen
Right? So it's like, if they added another suffix to the word suspect. So it's closest to if they called you suspectable in extremism and suspectable in terrorism.
Zoya
Yes.
M. Gessen
It's like this internal list is the draft of a list. Eventually, Zoya will probably be brought up on charges. She'll be the suspect in a made-up crime. But for now, in draft form, she is merely suspectable.
M. Gessen
Can you tell me why you were trying to buy this information?
Zoya
I think it's for me to understand the reality around me. Because when you are inside country, you very often don't feel that it's risky to stay there. And when you get this information, you understand it now. You cannot be safe. You have to be prepared every day that you could be arrested.
They could come to your flat. And it's not a question will they come or not. They will. Just the question is, when? And will you have time to leave the country? Will you have time to say goodbye for your parents or not?
M. Gessen
And what did Zoya do after finding out she was on this list of people who would eventually, probably be placed on the list of extremists and terrorists? She cried. She started making some plans for leaving the country someday. And she made one very practical plan for staying.
Zoya
We bought a very good door. And when I came to the shop, I asked a guy to recommend me a door, the best, the best when police will come and they want to break this door. I need like 15 minutes, 20 minutes. And they choose this door for me. This was the main criteria.
M. Gessen
When you were buying the door, what did they think you needed it for?
Zoya
They thought that I'm a drug dealer. And the guy told me that, OK, you will have time to throw away to the toilet everything what you have. I didn't explain them why I need this door. I think that probably it's a more understandable reason for them.
Police usually come in the morning. Every evening before I'm going to sleep, I check the door, everything, all this, everything should be closed. Because if not, then I will not have this 20 minutes.
M. Gessen
How many locks does the door have?
Zoya
Three.
M. Gessen
And why do you need 20 minutes?
Zoya
I need to clean my computer and contacts. Because if I will not do this, then all my friends will be in the risk. And also I have to fix my dog. My dog will protect me. And they could shoot dog.
M. Gessen
So you have to put your dog in the other room?
Zoya
Yeah, in the bathroom. And ask them-- and kindly ask them to not touch him.
M. Gessen
Zoya has many reasons to stay in Russia. Since her sister died of cancer several years ago, Zoya and Zoya's mother have together been raising Zoya's niece. Zoya's parents don't want to leave. Zoya's partner doesn't want to leave. Most important, Zoya doesn't want to leave.
So she has decided that she will stay as long as she possibly can. She believes the authorities will give her one final warning, something like leave the country now or go to jail, and then she'll leave. I'm not sure why she thinks there will be a warning. When it comes to her niece, though, Zoya is sure that the girl should leave the country as soon as she is old enough.
Zoya
I don't believe that she will have a future. I don't believe that life will be better in Russia. I see now how many people support Putin in these elections and how people celebrate it. And I wish all the best for my niece. I want her to live in a free country with the possibility to choose partners, work, opinion, everything.
M. Gessen
What if I said all the same things to you?
Zoya
It's good for someone that wish me all the best. But my niece, this is what I wish for her. But of course, she will decide.
M. Gessen
Just before we sat down for our interview, Zoya told me something that was still pretty new to her too. She was pregnant.
Zoya
I am in a huge crisis now. Because today, all morning, I just cried. And I feel it how I start to care not about myself, but about the child.
M. Gessen
It's like this child, when they're born, will already be in one of those lists. Hannah Arendt called bureaucracy the rule by nobody. Maybe that's why it feels so hopeless. They label you an extremist or a foreign agent, and next thing you know, you're using those terms yourself to describe your life.
Because it is your life-- thinking about where you can go, what you can say in public, how you're being singled out by the Russian state can affect people you love, and how it can always, always get worse. And you're never not going to think about it.
Ira Glass
M. Gessen is a staff writer at The New Yorker and the author of several books, most recently The Future is History.
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Ira Glass
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Karen
Strong, hostile, and small-minded.
Ira Glass
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