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46: Sissies
Act Four

The Other Love That Dare Not Speak Its Name

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Seattle writer and syndicated sex columnist Dan Savage, on how there's a stigma against sissies even among gay men. Gay personals ads are filled with men who want "straight acting/straight appearing" partners. Girly boys need not apply. Savage prefers swishier men and believes they actually have to be braver than homosexuals who can pass for straight. (15 minutes)

Original musical scoring throughout the hour by The Aluminum Group.

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