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September 11, 2009

Frenemies

This week we bring you stories about friends. Or wait, enemies? How about both? Tales of estranged sisters, BFFs breaking up and making up and breaking up, and how reality stars walk the fine line between making friends and making a name for themselves. Including a story from David Rakoff, whose new book Half Empty is available now.

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Julen Landa

This episode features music composed by Dustin O'Halloran.

Prologue

Host Ira Glass plays tape of two women who ended up as frenemies.They kept trying to be friends, but couldn't help themselves from fighting. Ira then speaks with psychologist Julianne Holt-Lunstad who has run scientific studies to answer the question: Why don't we simply end these troubling kinds of friendships? Holt-Lunstad's research also shows that these relationships are much more common than you might think. (7 minutes)

By

Ira Glass
Act One

Chasing Amy

Family members can easily be frenemies. You're stuck with them. You love them. They sometimes do things that make you feel very strange. Which is how Jeanne Darst felt when her sister married a Muslim man and pulled away from her family. Darst is finishing her first book, Fiction Ruined My Family. (16 minutes)

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Jeanne Darst

Song:

“My Sister” by Julianna Hatfield
Act Two

I Am Here To Make Frenemies

We head to deep inside the natural habitat of frenemies: Reality TV. Rich Juzwiak is a full-time blogger for VH1 and his own pop-culture blog which means he's spent a lot of time watching and dissecting reality TV shows. And last year, he noticed that one sentence seems to repeat an awful lot in the frenemy friendships that happen on reality TV. (5 minutes)

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Rich Juzwiak
Act Three

The Word Frenemy

Ira talks with lexicographer Erin McKean about the origin of the word frenemy. (6 minutes)

Act Four

Speak Now Or Forever Hold Your Peace

David Rakoff demonstrates—in rhyme—how to make a wedding toast for people you never wanted to see married in the first place. Rakoff is the author of several books, most recently Half Empty. (15 minutes)

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David Rakoff
Act Five

The Case Of The Long Lost Frenemy

Ira talks to a woman about a childhood friend of hers who mysteriously shows up after decades, for reasons that are only revealed as their correspondence unfolds. (15 minutes)

By

Ira Glass

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